Coaching vs. Therapy: What's the difference, and which do you need?
This is absolutely more confusing than it should be, especially since (a) the requirements to use the title "therapist" can vary by where you live, and (b) all sorts of people are calling themselves a "coach" nowadays.
There's no one right answer, but here's my opinion in brief:
- A psychological therapist is licensed, and they've attended a full Master's-level program in that field. Licensing is a rigorous process that takes a significant amount of time and energy, and it equips therapists to deal with more clinical-level disorders and complex trauma. Within the realm of psychological therapy, other professions include: the psychiatrist, who has a medical degree and can prescribe medications, the psychologist, who has a doctoral degree in psychology and can fully evaluate and treat mental disorders, etc. I am not a therapist.
- A counselor is someone who has completed training in one of many psychology-related modalities. They're able to hold space for a client to help them through a variety of challenges. But, counselors have a more limited scope of practice. The term "counselor" is less regulated, so it's important to research a someone you're considering to see what kind of training they have. In my case, I completed a two-year comprehensive training program in counseling at the M.E.T.A. Hakomi Institute of Oregon. You can read more about that on my Coaching Info page.
- A coach is focused not only on supporting you in the moment, but on helping you achieve your goals and guiding you to a place of greater fulfillment in your life. A good coach will be able to find a "future you" that feels possible to them, and they'll regularly challenge the limiting beliefs and stories you have in your head to help you reach that place. Some coaches specialize in things like productivity, time management, finding your ideal career, building your business, etc. You can read more about my specialties on my Coaching Info page. The word "coach" is the least regulated of all of these, so please be especially careful with researching a coach's training, style, and experience.
So, what do you need?
My passion is to provide service at the intersection of coaching and counseling.
I generally focus on the coaching side, but I'll pull in other techniques depending on the agreement I've set with the client, what they're wanting from a session, and what I know about their unique background.
- My coaching approach is more focused on where you want to go, how you want to feel, and overcoming what's been stopping you from getting there. If it seems helpful, I might also take on more of a "consultant" or "mentor" perspective where I offer specific advice or invite you to try some experiments.
- My counseling approach is more focused on helping you get really present in the moment so that we can explore what's happening for you, trace that back to old beliefs, and help you find your own revised perspectives.
What's my style?
As you can probably gather, I'm not a drill-sergeant type coach. If you want someone who's hyper-focused on pushing you hard and holding you accountable to rigid goals, I'm not the person for you.
Instead, people tend to describe me as:
- Powerfully present, grounded, steady, and committed
- Relatable and non-judgmental
- Inclusive, and able to see and represent a variety of perspectives
- Highly-logical and sharp, but also highly-empathetic, sensitive, and emotionally intelligent
- Holding an almost piercing level of focus on the client, but through a lens of compassion, kindness, and possibility
Sound like a good fit for you?