Great, you might be an INFJ!

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Your natural gifts make you:

  • Empathetic
  • Generous
  • Authentic
  • Intuitive
  • Perceptive

Common challenges:

  • Self-judgment, low confidence
  • Anxiety, hyper-vigilance
  • Losing sense of self
  • Isolating, keeping others out
  • Neglecting self-care

Every INFJ is a bit different, but how does this sound?

  • You're a natural therapist or counselor. People know they can come to you when they want to feel truly seen and heard. You have an almost psychic ability to intuitively understand what's happening for someone beneath the surface. Often, you understand people better than they do themselves.
  • But, you tend to give too much of yourself. You're usually more focused on what other people need—not only out of empathy or generosity, but also because tracking other people's needs and moods helps you feel safe. It can take you a while to realize that you've neglected your own health, energy, or happiness, and then you feel drained.
  • You might be a great speaker or performer, but you really need alone time to recharge afterward. Many INFJ's are drawn to creatively expressing themselves (e.g., through dance, art, public speaking, or storytelling). But, after the performance, it's critically important for you to have a "nest" to retreat to (usually, one that you've thoughtfully decorated and filled with comfortable objects).
  • It's very nourishing for you to have deep, complex conversations with people you trust. You want to feel understood and authentically met. But, you might feel lonely a lot since it can be hard to find people capable of the level of depth you're looking for. In the meantime, you can be closed off and slow to open up and trust people.
  • You feel emotions strongly, but you're also an analytical thinker. Even though you're a Feeler, you might be quite good with a spreadsheet. You're often torn between following your heart or your head, and you overthink things a lot. Sometimes, it feels like no matter how hard you try, you're still not getting things done and making the progress you want toward your dreams.

Does that resonate? If not, you might try going back to your results page and exploring one of your other highly-rated type possibilities (or, schedule a profiling session with me to help you figure out your type).

Otherwise, if we're on the right track, let's see what's next.

Confident you're an INFJ?

I'd appreciate your help! I'm always trying to improve my understanding of INFJ's, so could you please answer just one question for me?

Which topics would you like to be included on? (I won't email you often.)

Now, I'd like you to consider something:

Think back to when you decided to take my test. On the surface, you might have just been curious what type you would get.

But I'm betting there was a reason underneath that: You want to shift something in your life.

You're pretty hard on yourself. You struggle with confidence, self-esteem, and anxiety

How would your life be different if you could transform…

From:

  • Insecurity, fear of failure, worrying what others think of you, wondering if you matter
  • Conforming to maintain group harmony, or being hyper-vigilant toward tracking others
  • Feeling lonely, lacking authentic relationships and nuanced conversations

To:

  • Walking into a room with a strong sense of confidence, self-worth, and purpose
  • Holding your boundaries, and staying connected to a powerful sense of self
  • Authentic relationships with people who see the real you, understand you deeply, and meet you in complexity
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You always put others' needs first, neglecting what you really need

How would it feel to go…

From:

  • Using up all your energy helping others
  • Neglecting your own needs
  • Feeling overly-sensitive, like it's not safe to really open up

To:

  • Supporting others without draining yourself
  • Prioritizing self-care, and asking for what you need
  • Feeling safe to open up, be vulnerable, and fully express your emotions
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You struggle with procrastination, overthinking things, and taking action

What would it be worth to shift…

From:

  • Putting important things off
  • Feeling like you're just waiting for your goals and dreams to somehow happen on their own
  • Overthinking, overanalyzing, and feeling overwhelmed

To:

  • Getting the most important things done
  • More energy, drive, and clarity on taking action toward your goals and dreams
  • Skillfully balancing your head and your heart
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I'm Michael, and I help people transform

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I spent most of my 20's and early 30's waiting for my "real life" to start.

I had been completely stuck in my head and out of touch with my feelings and needs. I had no idea how to ask for what I needed to feel deeply nourished. I knew that I hated surface-level conversations, but I didn't understand how to create something different. So, I ended up just judging other people as shallow instead and feeling disconnected and lonely.

I finally couldn't take it anymore, so I devoted three years to pushing myself outside my comfort zone to transform my life. I learned a lot about setting boundaries, knowing what I need to feel energized and driven, and finding the right balance between my analytical mind and my embodied emotions.

I created my life purpose, made some dramatic changes to myself and my lifestyle, and finally began to understand what self-love and authentic aliveness feel like.

I'd like to help you feel that too.

From my INFJ client Natalie:

"Perhaps you are a person who gets sucked into tunnel vision. A person who struggles to remain present and enjoy the process without obsessing over future outcomes. A person who wishes you had a translator for your own thoughts. If so, time spent with Michael may prove to be just what you need. His gentle, open-minded insights make him the perfect sounding board for intuitive persons who face the daily struggle of feeling misunderstood.

Within our sessions, Michael has helped me to examine my own thought patterns and motivations more objectively and to realize that I don't always need to know exactly where everything is going in order to enjoy what's happening today. I'm grateful for his personal insights, as well as the tools and writing exercises that he provides in preparation for our conversations. He is a truly gifted counselor, and time with him has proved to be a valuable step toward acquiring deeper self-knowledge."

From my INFJ client Brandon:

"I feel lucky to have Michael on my team. We started working together as I was planning a life transition. He supported me by guiding me past self-doubt and into my body's natural sense of where it wants to go — clarity.

In our ongoing work, Michael provides open-ended perspectives on situations that I can tend to see as more closed-off. He has so many tools, resources, and experiences that give me confidence that he can add a lot to my journey. Our sessions give me a boost and let me step forward with some really healthy attitudes."

What do the top people in every field have in common?

I've worked with everyone from Fortune 500 finance executives, to Academy Award-winning directors, to some of the most celebrated video game designers in the US and Japan, and I'd like to share a secret with you:

The most successful people get help when they're struggling.

They might look perfect on the outside, but I've seen firsthand that they're grappling with their own challenges—from self-doubt and impostor syndrome to depression and anxiety.

They still hit barriers that they have trouble getting past on their own. And top performers know that they need to put the oxygen mask on themselves first before they're able to most effectively help others.

Just like star athletes benefit from coaching, the top people in every field hire experts to help them improve.

I'd like to help you too.

Our types are a natural fit

I'm an ENTP, so I have two of your cognitive functions (Fe and Ti) but in a different order.

In other words, I get people like you, but I'm also different enough to provide a different way of seeing things. In fact, ENTP's and INFJ's are famously two of the best-matched types.

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I would like to earn your trust as I have with these people:

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"Perhaps you are a person who gets sucked into tunnel vision. A person who struggles to remain present and enjoy the process without obsessing over future outcomes. A person who wishes you had a translator for your own thoughts. If so, time spent with Michael may prove to be just what you need. His gentle, open-minded insights make him the perfect sounding board for intuitive persons who face the daily struggle of feeling misunderstood.

Within our sessions, Michael has helped me to examine my own thought patterns and motivations more objectively and to realize that I don't always need to know exactly where everything is going in order to enjoy what's happening today. I'm grateful for his personal insights, as well as the tools and writing exercises that he provides in preparation for our conversations. He is a truly gifted counselor, and time with him has proved to be a valuable step toward acquiring deeper self-knowledge."

—Natalie (INFJ), nurse turned photographer and sustainable garden designer

“The insights and ideas we shared together took me from a very restless and uncertain Point A, to the trail with a map and the makings of a plan, to a Point B that aligns with my values and needs. For now, I will live in this moment that I’ve worked toward. Thank you for helping me get here.”

—Bryan (ENTP), senior Salesforce consultant

“Michael listened and wanted to know what would work for us. He didn't just give us a cookie cutter training. He simplified concepts in a way that allowed us to understand.”

—Anonymous feedback from a workshop for senior executives at a Fortune 1000 company

“In relatively short notice, Michael stepped in and let our Senior Leadership Team through a very impactful workshop on an incredibly important topic. We couldn't have started this journey without him.”

—Trever (INTP), technology director at a top management consulting firm

I kept walking away with one refreshing insight after another... Michael admirably applies praise where deserved and tends to avoid positivity for positivity’s sake. He does not judge – he seeks to understand. His inquisitive nature and mannerisms are a refreshing blend of friendly banter, humor, and understanding that are hard to find and very much appreciated.

There is great peace of mind in knowing that at least one person outside of my family can be absolutely trusted with my most confidential musings about my career.

He has an uncanny ability to say something back to me in a way that’s more coherent than how I first said it. When I hear my thoughts stated back to me it brings a certain permanence, conviction, and power to them I am challenged to replicate on my own.

I can’t thank Michael enough, and I wholeheartedly encourage you to take advantage of his gift.”

—Ryan (ESTP), director at a Fortune 10 Company

"[Michael's] program felt very much like Jedi training on Dagobah with Master Yoda."

—Jeff (ENTP), engineer consultant

"I feel lucky to have Michael on my team. We started working together as I was planning a life transition. He supported me by guiding me past self-doubt and into my body's natural sense of where it wants to go — clarity.

In our ongoing work, Michael provides open-ended perspectives on situations that I can tend to see as more closed-off. He has so many tools, resources, and experiences that give me confidence that he can add a lot to my journey. Our sessions give me a boost and let me step forward with some really healthy attitudes."

—Brandon (INFJ), software developer turned yoga teacher and entrepreneur

“I feel like I am in a good place now after our last session. Everything is falling into place and I feel good. Thanks so much for your help.”

—Johanna (INTJ), lawyer

“This experience has been life-changing. Michael is very helpful, respectful and an interesting person that I look forward to seeing every time.”

—Natalia (INTP), information systems officer for a government organization in the European Union

FAQ

How can I work with you? How much do you charge?

Thanks for your interest in coaching with me. Below you'll find information on several types of offerings: one-on-one coaching, group coaching & workshops, and my blog.

One-on-One Coaching

I've thought a lot about the most logical, fair, and ethical way to price my services.

Conversations about money tend to bring out a lot of feelings (on both sides), and I want to approach that complexity with the nuance and care it deserves.

So, my pricing model requires just a little more work to understand than "pay me $X," but I hope you'll be willing to spend a few minutes reading through it.

If you're curious, I wrote a whole blog post where I break down in detail how I arrived at this set of policies, but below are the cliffsnotes.

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My pricing philosophy and policies

My goal is to be able to serve a variety of people in my practice—including people from groups who have typically had less access to coaching.

At the same time, this is my primary source of income and I need to be able to run a sustainable business.

Here's the model I've arrived at:

  • Sliding-scale (variable pricing):

    I offer the same service at multiple prices based on need. I’m relying on the honor system, and paying the highest price you can afford allows me to offer the lower-cost options to people who couldn't otherwise afford coaching.

  • Pay for sessions in bundles of three:

    This simplifies payments for both of us, and I've found that it makes our relationship feel less transactional. Plus, it takes at least a few sessions to really begin to see the effects of coaching. (Yes, you’ll likely leave even the first session with some powerful insights, but real transformation takes time.) If paying for three sessions at once feels challenging for you, let's talk about it.

  • First session is free:

    Before asking you to pay anything, let's make sure we're the right fit for each other. So much of coaching comes down to trust, chemistry, and connection. Each coach has a different style, so I want to make sure you feel comfortable with mine.

  • Commit to at least two sessions per month:

    Most of my clients choose to see me every week, but I've found that twice a month is the *minimum* cadence necessary for the strong relationship that I build with my clients. It helps me feel aware of what's going on in your life so I'm better able to support you. And, you'll make faster progress toward your goals.

  • Most importantly, let’s be real with each other:

    I’m not a big faceless corporation charging one fixed price for a product, and you’re a complex human with a lot of different types of expenses in your life. It’s often uncomfortable to talk about money, but let’s have a real authentic conversation about what you can afford that’s fair to both of us. Let's come at this as a team trying to solve a challenge together.

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My Sliding Scale

These numbers and rules aren’t set in stone. But it's hard to answer if I just ask you which number feels right. So, I've offered some tangible examples to make it easier (and there's some wiggle room around the salary ranges if you have a lot of other non-luxury expenses, e.g., out-of-pocket medical costs).

Please do your own research if you'd like a comparison for coaching rates, but I can tell you that $200+ USD is a common price charged by my peers with similar experience.

Here are my rates for a 50-minute session (again, this is the same service being offered at each price tier):

Which one best describes your situation?

A
  • You can afford to go on an international vacation every year (staying at hotels, eating out)
  • or
  • You regularly make $200+ USD purchases (beyond necessities like groceries) without needing to save up
  • or
  • You make roughly: $120,000 or higher USD per year (before tax, including bonuses, etc.)

$179 USD

B
  • You can afford to go on a modest vacation every few years (staying at hotels, eating out)
  • or
  • You regularly make $50+ USD purchases (beyond necessities like groceries)
    without needing to save up
  • or
  • You make roughly: under $120,000 USD per year (before tax, including bonuses, etc.)

$129 USD
(limited slots)

C
  • You identify as part of a historically marginalized group such as LGBTQIA+ or BIPOC (or the equivalent in your country or region, i.e., some kind of systemic discrimination based on race, gender, religion, sexual orientation, disability status, etc.)
  • AND
  • You have very little disposable income available after paying for basic necessities (rent, utilities, groceries, etc.)
  • AND
  • You make under $50,000 USD per year (before tax, including bonuses, etc.)

$49 USD
(very limited slots)

(I'm a big fan of crypto, so I'm open to receiving payment in ETH or BTC—or potentially other cryptocurrencies—as well. Let me know if you're interested and we can talk about how to set that up.)

Group Coaching, Workshops, and Free Content

I'm not currently offering any group coaching, but it's likely that the next cohort I open up will be available only to current and former one-on-one coaching clients.

Sign up below to be the first to hear about my new programs, tools, and writing (I don't send out emails very often).

Which topics would you like to be included on?

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If paid coaching doesn't fit into your current financial situation, you can check out my free tools and blog posts.