Are you an ENFJ (the Giver / Protagonist / Teacher)?
You help others grow from the heart. Ready to nurture your own next chapter?

Your natural gifts make you:
- Empathetic
- Motivated
- Altruistic
- Responsible
- Inspirational
Common challenges:
- Overcommitting yourself
- Discomfort with conflict
- Taking criticism too personally
- Neglecting self-care
- Perfectionism
- Community is incredibly important to you, and you love connecting people. Your relationships are everything, and you're a loyal, reliable friend. Because you value deep connection, you can sometimes feel lonely or misunderstood.
- You're naturally oriented toward supporting others. You're the one who makes sure everyone's needs are taken care of, and your empathy helps people feel seen and appreciated. People are inspired by you, and you're great at motivating and steering groups.
- Unfortunately, your desire to help and please everyone leads to you overextending yourself and neglecting your own needs. You're so focused on others that you don't take time to recharge yourself.
- Although you're excellent at navigating social situations and maintaining harmony, you tend to avoid conflict by suppressing your own feelings.
- You're a visionary, but your high standards make you a perfectionist who feels like you're never doing enough, which can make you feel anxious or cause you to procrastinate.
ENFJ Tip #1:
You're always thinking about your web of social relationships and obligations. So, make a list of everything you've committed to and make sure that's how you truly want to be spending your time and energy.
You don't want to disappoint people, but it's also important to properly manage your energy to avoid burning out.
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Try this video of mine (and please consider subscribing to my channel if it resonates):
ENFJ Tip #2:
To mature your Ni function, take time to zoom out to the bigger picture of your life and reflect on your goals, priorities, values, and needs.
Quiet your mind through meditation or journaling, and spend time alone exploring abstract symbology through art, music, metaphor, philosophy, poetry, etc.
With Ni, you won't always consciously understand how you reached certain conclusions—you might just feel an epiphany inside yourself. Practice trusting that.
Ok, you found your type. Now what? Turn insight into action and get more of the life you want.
Think back to when you decided to take my personality test (or whatever you were looking for when you found your way here).
On the surface, you might have just been curious what type you would get. But I'm betting there was a reason underneath that:
You want to shift something in your life.
Deep down, you know that more is possible for you.
You overextend yourself and neglect your own needs
How would your life be different if you could transform…
From:
- Giving too much to others
- Feeling guilty about spending time & energy on yourself
- Saying yes to too much, then feeling anxious and burned out
To:
- Being less focused on people-pleasing
- Prioritizing self-care without guilt
- Feeling like it's ok to say no, then feeling calm and pleasantly energized
You struggle with confidence and decision-making
How would it feel to go…
From:
- Always worrying about disappointing others
- Getting stuck in your head and over-analyzing
- Failing to trust yourself to stay true to your values
To:
- Being less focused on people-pleasing
- Prioritizing self-care without guilt
- Feeling like it's ok to say no, then feeling calm and pleasantly energized
You fall into perfectionism and can't handle criticism
What would it be worth to shift…
From:
- Such high standards that you procrastinate
- Receiving criticism being painful, like a personal failure
- Feeling very sensitive sometimes, and fearing being abandoned
To:
- Realistic standards, delegating, and asking for help
- Feeling internal self-worth without relying on how others see you
- Experiencing feelings in a more grounded, manageable way
" I knew within 30 seconds of our first call that Michael was someone I wanted by my side. Here was someone who could finally see me, as I truly was deep down. And that eventually helped me fully see myself. "
—ENFJ Medical School Student
(Not a "sales call" or "discovery call" like other coaches—
I'll give you some actual coaching with a real challenge you're facing.)
Or, try one of these quick wins to get started right away.

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—ENTP Lawyer

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This opened up whole new paths I'd never even considered. I'd been feeling like I had no energy left to do anything outside work. But going through this gave me so much extra energy...
—INTP Tech Consultant
Want support customized for you and your unique challenges in life?
Keep reading to learn whether coaching with me might be just what you need.
I'm Michael, a coach who helps ENFJ's transform

I spent most of my 20's and early 30's waiting for my "real life" to start.
I had been completely stuck in my head and out of touch with my feelings and needs. I had no idea how to ask for what I needed to feel deeply nourished.
I was a perfectionist who didn't really understand self-care, and I struggled a lot with decision-making.
I finally couldn't take it anymore, so I devoted three years to pushing myself outside my comfort zone to transform my life. I learned a lot about speaking up for my needs, knowing what I need to feel energized instead of anxious, and finding the right balance between my analytical mind and my embodied emotions.
I created my life purpose, made some dramatic changes to myself and my lifestyle, and finally began to understand what self-love, values alignment, and authentic aliveness feel like.
I'd like to help you feel that too.
What do the top people in every field have in common?
I've worked with Fortune 500 leaders, an Academy Award-winning director, a Mount Everest record holder, and some of the most famous video game designers in the industry.
And I'd like to share a secret with you:
The most successful people get help when they're struggling.
They might look perfect on the outside, but I've seen firsthand that they're grappling with their own challenges—from self-doubt and impostor syndrome to depression and anxiety.
They still hit barriers that they have trouble getting past on their own. And top performers know that they need to put the oxygen mask on themselves first before they're able to most effectively help others.
Just like star athletes benefit from coaching, the top people in every field hire experts to help them improve.
I'd like to help you too.
Our types are a natural fit
I'm an ENTP, so I have two of your cognitive functions (Fe and Ti) but in a different order.
In other words, I get people like you, but I'm also different enough to provide a different way of seeing things. Your weak spot (analytical thinking) is my strong suit.
I struggled for years with different coaches and therapists. The one who finally helped me change my life was a fellow 'N' who spoke my language.
She saw me in a way that few others ever had in my life, and she challenged my beliefs that had held me back for a decade.
It was like a set of dominoes—those coaching sessions eventually set into motion dramatic shifts in virtually every aspect of my life.

I’ve coached hundreds of people across 6 continents
- Fortune 500 leaders
- Entrepreneurs & founders
- Influencers with millions of followers
- Students
- People who felt totally stuck or unclear
I'd like to earn your trust, as I have with these NFJs:

Perhaps you are a person who gets sucked into tunnel vision and struggles to remain present and enjoy the process without obsessing over future outcomes. A person who wishes you had a translator for your own thoughts.
If so, time spent with Michael may be just what you need. His gentle, open-minded insights make him the perfect sounding board for intuitive persons who face the daily struggle of feeling misunderstood.
Michael has helped me to examine my own thought patterns and motivations more objectively. He is a truly gifted counselor, and time with him has proved to be a valuable step toward acquiring deeper self-knowledge.
When I first started seeing you, I was full of self-hatred and anxiety, and I had trouble trusting most of my relationships. I felt like I had to curate myself to be accepted by others.
I’m so amazed by the profound impact this work has had on me.
The biggest surprise for me has been that I feel less bored in conversations now. I feel like I can trust people more, and I’m much more at ease in being truly vulnerable rather than having to play a certain role for them.
I knew within 30 seconds of our first call that Michael was someone I wanted by my side.
Here was someone who could finally see me, as I truly was deep down. And that eventually helped me fully see myself.
Back then, it felt like life was acting upon me, and I was suffering professionally and in my relationships.
I really don’t feel any of that now. I had been grasping for solutions through a certain lens, and Michael helped me find a completely different set of lenses that make everything look different.
Those negative feelings haven’t all gone away entirely. But my reality has completely changed, and I feel so much more able to meet them those challenges.
I feel lucky to have Michael on my team. We started working together as I was planning a life transition. He supported me by guiding me past self-doubt and into my body's natural sense of where it wants to go — clarity.
In our ongoing work, Michael provides open-ended perspectives on situations that I can tend to see as more closed-off. He has so many tools, resources, and experiences that give me confidence that he can add a lot to my journey. Our sessions give me a boost and let me step forward with some really healthy attitudes.
I want to name that our work together has had a dramatic, tangible impact on my life.
Working with other coaches and therapists before has been helpful, but you’ve given me something significantly different. You’ve changed my life in a very real way and set me on an entirely new path. I’ll be forever grateful.
Interested in coaching that's customized for YOUR type of mind?
Here's How This Works:
I've put a lot of thought into the most logical, fair, and ethical way to price my services.
Conversations about money tend to bring out a lot of feelings (on both sides), and I want to approach that complexity with the nuance and care it deserves.
So, this will require just a little more work to understand than "pay me $X."
(If you're curious, I wrote a whole philosophical article where I break down in detail how I arrived at this set of policies.)

My Model:
You first sample session is free and no-risk
I’d like to build a fruitful, ongoing relationship with you. So, let’s make sure we’re the right fit. Many other coaches focus the first call on sales and logistics, but I’ll instead offer you a real sample of my coaching. Let’s explore an actual challenge you’re facing in your life.
Commit to 2-4 sessions per month
Seeing each other less often slows progress and means more time spent on life updates instead of transformation. Scheduling is flexible. At the end of each session, we open our calendars and find the next time that works for both of us (or, we can pick a regular weekly/bi-weekly time).
You're in charge—you're not locked into anything
Most coaches require signing up for expensive package deals. But one of my core values is freedom, so I want to offer that to you: Pay for sessions one at a time and stop whenever you like.
I use a sliding scale (i.e., variable pricing)
I offer the same service at multiple price points based on need (honor system, no proof required). This allows me to offer lower-priced coaching to people who couldn't otherwise afford it.
Most importantly, let’s be real with each other
I’m not a faceless corporation, and you’re a unique, complex human. If you’re not sure where you fall on my sliding scale, let’s have an authentic conversation about what you can afford that’s fair to both of us. It's not you vs. me, but us figuring this out together as a team.

My Sliding Scale:
I serve a variety of people, including groups who have historically had less access to coaching due to systemic oppression.
Many of my clients identify as LGBTQIA+ or neurodivergent, and 43% are people of color.
This is my primary source of income, so I aim to provide access while also running a sustainable business.
Please do your own research if you'd like a comparison for coaching rates.
But I can tell you that $200-500 USD per session is a common price charged by my peers with similar experience and credentials.
What You Get By Working With Me:
- I'll start off by sending you a detailed questionnaire. It'll help me get to know you and support you in getting crystal clear on your goals for coaching.
- This isn't one-size-fits-all. I'll customize my coaching style based on your personality type (I have expertise in several powerful typing systems).
- We'll co-create a unique personal growth trajectory just for you. I'll bring in techniques from Co-Active coaching, Hakomi counseling, Positive Intelligence coaching, Zen Buddhism, or whatever is most appropriate for your specific challenges.
- You'll get access to me via email between sessions (e.g., if you'd like me to review your resume or answer a time-sensitive question). And, as we work together, I might share worksheets, articles, or podcasts that make me think of you.
- P.S. Want to get a sense of what I sound like? Here are a few of my YouTube videos I like: (a) introducing myself, (b) purposefully discarding thoughts, (c) processing big emotions, and (d) cultivating fragile feelings,
Questions?
Check out my FAQ below the pricing table.
Which Best Describes Your Situation?
Below are my rates for a 50-minute session. Again, this is the same service being offered at each price tier.
Many life situations aren't perfectly covered in this table. Please do your best to pick what feels closest to yours.
(P.S. This isn't a value judgment. You're not a good or bad person for having substantial resources or for lacking those. This is simply an attempt to find the fairest possible exchange of value amidst complexity.)
Standard Rate A
- You earn over $170K USD/year (or, you have substantial savings / passive income / inheritance / property / other assets)
- Or, you can buy most things without needing to save up
- Or, your company will be paying for this
- Bonus: By paying this rate, you allow me to offer lower-priced coaching to someone with a marginalized identity (thank you!)
$297 USD
Standard Rate B
- You earn over $120K USD/year (before tax, including bonuses)
- Or, you regularly spend $200+ USD on non-necessities without needing to save up (or you pay full price for services like workshops, massages, nice restaurant dinners or drinks, etc.)
- Or, you own property or other significant assets
- Or, your family/parents have substantial assets that you have access to (so that you live mostly on gifted/inherited income or don't have to work to survive)
$197 USD
Special Rate
- You earn under $50K USD/year (before tax, including bonuses)
- And, you have very little disposable income (i.e., you can't afford much beyond basic necessities, and you don't have a family able and willing to easily support you financially)
- And, you identify as part of a historically marginalized group such as LGBTQIA+ or BIPOC and you feel like that has had a significant effect on your income (or, you face other challenges that have significantly limited your income potential such as systemic discrimination, disability, chronic illness, or substantial non-optional healthcare costs)
$97 USD
(waitlist only)
(I'm a fan of crypto too. Credit card is easier to process; but, if your money is tied up in crypto, I'm open to discussing payment in BTC or ETH.)
If paid coaching doesn't fit into your current financial situation, some of my no-cost offerings include my blog and my YouTube channel (the latter of which I update most frequently).